When we have unhelpful, annoying, and intrusive thoughts, it’s natural to respond adversarially and attempt to eliminate them. However, this usually isn’t effective.

Imagine walking in the park and seeing a bully ahead walking toward you. You might want to run away, but this could get his attention and provoke him. You might consider arguing and trying to get him to change, but he’ll likely dig his heels in even deeper in his ways.

Another option is to simply nod at him when he passes while remaining focused on the goal of taking a walk.

By practicing relating to our thoughts more neutrally, we decrease much of the suffering they bring us.