It’s tempting to pursue the goal of having no fear. “I’ll start giving presentations once I feel confident” “I’ll ask him out once I don’t feel afraid” It’s simply not obtainable though. Instead, we need to act, driven by our values, despite fear and anxiety screaming at us not to. Anxiety is a paradox. The harder we try to get rid of it, the more it grips us. The less we hold on to the goal of getting rid of it, the less it impacts us and the more its intensity starts to fade.