Why am I Always Overthinking The Past? And How to Stop.

Our ability to remember the past is important. We don’t want to lose it. Without it we’d lose our capacity to learn and we’d find ourselves constantly making the same mistakes. The past can bring up intense emotions like guilt and regret. These emotions can act like a compass, telling us when we’ve veered too far from our values. However, … Read More

What to do When Your Partner Doesn’t Understand Your Anxiety

  Anxiety can impact most intimate relationships. This is especially true when our partner doesn’t understand it. And when this happens, it can make us more to be anxious about, it can increase conflict, which can leave us feeling isolated and alone. In this article, I offer some things to think about when trying to get your partner to understand … Read More

Lean Into Anxiety

Logically, trying to escape or avoid anxiety makes a lot of sense. It’s uncomfortable, it causes us to do things that aren’t in line with who I want to be, so let’s try to avoid it. In practice, however, this makes things worse. Anxiety’s drug of choice The drug of choice for anxiety is avoidance because it gives us certainty … Read More

Japanese Parenting Style – And Differences from the West

Expats and foreigners visiting Japan are often surprised by how Japanese kids act; Westerners commonly report things like, less fuss, more mature behavior and greater self-sufficiency, than the kids in their home countries.  And, for the number of foreigners making these kinds of observations, there are usually just as many theories as to why Japanese kids are the way they … Read More

My Husband Got a Job Overseas (Impacts of Staying or Going)

Finding out your husband just got a job overseas can bring a flood of mixed emotions: Anger Sadness Jealousy Fear Isolation Excitement It can also bring with it an overwhelming number of decisions and things to consider: Will I go with him? Do I want and could we survive a long-distance relationship? What will I do for work? Am I … Read More

How Often Should You See a Therapist for Anxiety?

Therapy is one of the best ways to confront anxiety. But, if you’ve never been to therapy, there are likely many questions. One of the most common questions asked is, “How often should you expect to see your therapist?” Typically, it’s best to see your therapist 1 time per week. If your anxiety is at a higher level, your therapist … Read More