The experience of homesickness has common features for all of us. At the same time, each of us can experience homesickness in a number of different ways, including its duration. For some, homesickness can pass fairly quickly, while for others it can take much longer. How long does homesickness last, in general? Studies have shown homesickness to last between … Read More
Why Am I So Quiet? A Psychotherapist’s Perspective
It can be a challenge to figure out why we do something or why we don’t do something. And a tendency to be quiet is not exception. It’s an important question though. We thrive off connection and the only way for us to connect is to talk and put ourselves out there. Why am I so quiet? Paying attention to … Read More
Why Am I So Quiet in Groups? And Should I Speak Up More?
Why am I so quiet in groups? A pattern of not speaking up in groups is often due to a fear of being judged, a core belief that we’re somehow flawed, and an underestimate of our social skills. Often, it’s not that we are lacking social skills, it’s that we need to address underlying thoughts and behaviors that maintain our … Read More
What Kind of Therapist Do I Need for Anxiety? How to Choose & What to Expect
The field of psychology can be confusing for the average person. Unless you’ve trained as a therapist, it’s unlikely that you know the difference between all the titles in the field. So, what kind of therapist do you need for anxiety? There is no specific title for an anxiety therapist. Any licensed therapist can treat anxiety, however, it’s recommended to … Read More
Why am I Always Overthinking The Past? And How to Stop.
Our ability to remember the past is important. We don’t want to lose it. Without it we’d lose our capacity to learn and we’d find ourselves constantly making the same mistakes. The past can bring up intense emotions like guilt and regret. These emotions can act like a compass, telling us when we’ve veered too far from our values. However, … Read More
Lean Into Anxiety
Logically, trying to escape or avoid anxiety makes a lot of sense. It’s uncomfortable, it causes us to do things that aren’t in line with who I want to be, so let’s try to avoid it. In practice, however, this makes things worse. Anxiety’s drug of choice The drug of choice for anxiety is avoidance because it gives us certainty … Read More
How Often Should You See a Therapist for Anxiety?
Therapy is one of the best ways to confront anxiety. But, if you’ve never been to therapy, there are likely many questions. One of the most common questions asked is, “How often should you expect to see your therapist?” Typically, it’s best to see your therapist 1 time per week. If your anxiety is at a higher level, your therapist … Read More